I have spent the last twenty years studying all the aspects surrounding mother and child relationships with a particular emphasis on the harm inflicted to a child if a mother is self-absorbed, unloving, uncaring, emotionally detached, domineering, nitpicky, or unappreciative. During that time, I have seen many clients have success with spiritual healing childhood trauma.
The majority of these children end up having unhealed wounds from their childhood. They experience difficulty expressing and handling their emotions, and although they are emotionally deprived, they tend to either select friends and lovers who treat them like their moms did, or they isolate themselves from personal relationships. Identifying the form of boundaries that allow relationships to grow and prosper can be challenging for them because they do not have a clear understanding of their individuality. These are psychological issues that need to be addressed by identifying the underlying destructive habits and behaviors associated with them and then making deliberate efforts to demolish them. Healing is finally achieved once new habits and behaviors are learned. Spiritual healing childhood trauma can play a vital role in their recovery.
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Spiritual Healing Childhood Trauma Exercises
Some acts of spirituality can help your recovery from childhood PTSD. The spiritual healing childhood trauma exercises listed below are some helpful acts that you might want to do as part of your healing process.
Top 5 Spiritual Healing Childhood Trauma Exercises
1. Stop doing affirmations and start asking questions instead
Although I understand how prominent and relaxing affirmations can be, research reveals that they do not stimulate our minds in the same manner as a question does. There would not be many changes made even if you tell yourself daily, “I will love myself.” However, if you question yourself, “Will I love myself?” your mind will begin to look for various solutions to how you might love and accept yourself. Is preventing yourself from making close connections an act of loving yourself? Does loving yourself mean blaming yourself for things that are beyond your control? Or does it mean choosing to do what you enjoy instead of focusing on other people’s opinions of you? Is buying a piece of chocolate an expression of your love for yourself? Or does loving yourself mean relaxing or hustling to make your dreams come true?
Learning how you can better love and accept yourself is a big aspect of healing.
2. Create a blessing plate
It is very easy to get overwhelmed with negative thoughts especially when things do not turn out the way we planned them. Even if it is true that being optimistic and cheerful all the time does not make much progress in your healing and recovery, remembering all the nice things your life has to offer, as well as the people and possibilities your life provides, is still beneficial.
On a small piece of paper, write down several things that you consider as a blessing daily and place it on a plate. A blessing can take many forms. It can be a good or productive moment like being complimented by a stranger, receiving a heartwarming letter from your child, or living up to your planned diet program. It can also simply be a lack of inconveniences, such as the absence of traffic or having a fast internet connection. Or it can also be an unexpected happy moment like going on a spontaneous trip and having a lot of fun or finding a solution to a problem. You should do this for a month, and then go back and reread everything you wrote on the last day of the month.
It may also be a great time to start a blessing plate when you are expecting a tough situation in your life to help you cope up with the situation.We may receive compensation if you sign up for online counseling services we recommend.
3. Become a grower of life
We may not all be gardeners or have access to a large yard where we can plant, but we can all plant indoors. I firmly believe that being around living things, such as plants, is beneficial. A plant allows us to regard ourselves as capable cultivators of our spirits, enabling us to nurture ourselves and establish our concept of self-care. If you are already a gardener then just skip this, but if you are not then you should hang on.
You can start by either buying a small aloe vera or jade plant and practice patience by waiting for it to grow, or you can plant my favorite, which is the simple white potato. A white potato and a water container can work wonders. Embed four toothpicks into an organic white potato and soak its pointy end in water. Please place it in a bright window or provide it with as much sunlight as possible. This will develop roots and a vine will begin to grow!
The key takeaway in this is that it will strengthen your belief in change and will teach you how to take care of things.
4. Re-think about the child you were
Removing the habitual attitude of self-criticism and turning off the memory in your brain that keeps repeating the negative things that have been said to you by your family of origin is one of the most difficult elements of healing. Look at a photo of yourself as a child as if you were a stranger. Do you recognize the person who was seen by other members of your family? What do you think of this tiny child when you see them? Speak to your younger self and express your sympathy for his/her misery and loneliness. Many people say that spending time with their photographs gives them a sense of self-compassion.
5. Create a letting go ritual
Paradoxically, a large part of the healing process entails letting go of old baggage that we do not even realize we were carrying. This baggage is packed with behaviors that prevent us from achieving our goals, feelings that keep us trapped and worrying, and the incapability of seeing ourselves properly. We may remain in contact with people that we know are not good for us, especially with our toxic family, because we are in denial of this harsh truth or because we still hope for the situation to get better even when it is obvious that it is not.
What makes letting go even more difficult is not only a society that teaches us that tenacity is the key to winning and achieving our goals, but also the fact that humans are extremely conservative so even if they are unhappy, they will prefer to remain in their current situation rather than move on to a new uncertain future.
Letting go is a huge deal, and although it offers room for growth and development, it also always entails some form of loss. According to many studies, it is beneficial to actively use some rituals to commemorate these triumphs and losses.
Journaling and Writing
You may write a farewell letter to a behavior or a person you are walking away from. Doing so allows you to remind yourself why you are making this choice, and it will also help you better understand your thoughts and emotions. You do not need to send this letter. Mailing a letter to someone demands a response, and that has nothing to do with leaving or letting go. Many neglected children write letters to their mothers that are never delivered and are sometimes burned. Writing is the main point. You are only writing to fully release yourself.
Rituals Of Fire
Some individuals find it very therapeutic to write on a piece of paper whatever they want to let go of and burn it afterward. One reader burned photos which she thinks represented moments of her life that she does not want to remember. Lighting a candle can also act as a method of literally brightening your surroundings and your self-image.
Rituals Involving Water
Since time immemorial, water has already been used ceremonially to cleanse both literally and symbolically. You can certainly use water to wash yourself from negative thoughts and emotions. Another practice includes tossing or throwing stones or pebbles into a lake or any body of water while imagining that the stone holds whatever you are trying to let go of.
The bigger point of a ritual is that it enables us to take symbolic actions, which, at times, can be exactly what we need to fully let go and move on.
If you think your trauma may be subconscious, check How To Heal Subconscious Trauma From Childhood.
For many, overcoming childhood PTSD can be very challenging. Some may wish to practice some of the spiritual healing childhood trauma exercises that we highlighted above.
If you still find yourself having difficulty getting over your trauma, don’t hesitate to seek help from a professional counselor, either in person or online.We may receive compensation if you sign up for online counseling services we recommend.